Your co-worker was not well adjusted and apparently didn’t mind displaying it publically. His obsession is not your fault or your problem. IMHO the best response to such a public statement is to call him out publically by saying something like “Your obsession with sex can be successfuly treated these days.” Especially since you were leaving the company and he chose to dispay his obsession publically.

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This is rarely true. Even if it was true, it is victim blaming.

I was temping at a place where my “business” attire was not wholly necessary, and one day, filing (actually unpacking files from an office relocation) in a narrow and very warm room, while there were only other women in the office, I removed my sweater and had on a tank top underneath. Maybe that was the wrong thing to do professionally, so maybe I should have been sent home. The only man who worked at that office came back from somewhere and paused to stare at me in the file room and said nothing. I put my sweater back on to talk to him about something and didn’t take it off again. It was wool and the office was cranked up to 90 and I was performing manual labor as opposed to office work that I was tricked into believing I’d been hired to do. A few weeks later, my temp job ended, and he made a remark about “photographic memory” of that day he saw me filing in a tank top in the card everyone signed for my going-away party. I’m supposed to have a sense of humor about this, but really just glad I was moving on from that office.

Anyway, I guess my point was that even if a woman does want to show off her body, or even if she doesn’t mean to, those men who think they are so powerful and dominant can keep their impolite thoughts to themselves, or else we can just regard them as weak, if that is what they are admitting to. They might be ashamed to be so weak, but they accept it as their nature, which is a lame excuse. A woman’s nature might be to let one special guy know she is available, not the entire male population.

A woman who is hoping to attract a sexual partner has every right to reject men who don’t meet her standards, he has no right to force himself on her, and if he can’t control himself, it’s just a cultural anomaly that men who are supposed to be more awesome at everything fail at being respectful and in self-control. Women are people, they do not exist to be pawed and blamed and to have senses of humor for male perversions, and awkward, forward remarks as to their virility. A man with such an ego as to believe a woman was “asking for it” doesn’t seem to understand she might be asking for it from someone else, and she does have prerogative to reject him, like it or not.

Hear, hear!

Your point is very good, it’s an excellent analyses of the story. The demonization of sexuality in the abrahamic religions has cause nothing but problems including this.